Wednesday, May 25, 2005
Hidden Blessing
I am quite tired of receiving all of the devastating news. Plus, I know everyone must be overwhelmed by the sadness of so many negative entries. Today, I am going to write about something unexpected that I am really thankful for.
Several years ago, after my parents divorce I hoped that my dad would get remarried. He has always been the kind that gets extremely lonely without people around despite the fact that he is not overly social or necessarily involved in what is happening. In fact, it isn't uncommon to see him as the sour faced one in the corner. I must admit that my reasons for wanting him to get remarried were mostly selfish. Frankly, I didn't want to take care of him when he gets old. I was hoping he would marry a younger woman that would be his care taker in the future. I pictured a woman in her mid 40s and possibly a nurse. I realize that I am one of five kids and that my chances of being his care taker are probably less than one in five since we have always had a troubled relationship. Despite that, I still wanted to see him married.
Last November, after about 3 months of dating, he got married to a 36 year old woman (Angie). I had mixed thoughts on the whole thing. He was rushing into it and I wondered if she would be able to handle the baggage (step-kids near her own age). I also realized that this was her first marriage. Knowing a few things about her, I could only assume that she wanted kids. It was strange to think that my nephews & nieces would be older than their kids. All in all, I basically felt unattached emotionally to the whole thing.
I met her at Thanksgiving at my brother's house in Tallahassee. My dad & Angie went on a little driving honeymoon and stopped off for Thanksgiving. She got to meet a bulk of the family including many of my mom's relatives. Talk about a stressful situation, but she remained calm. In fact, I was surprised that she didn't make an effort to fix herself up. She wore an old bum equipment sweatshirt and jeans. I guess she wanted to show her true self. I noticed that her personality was almost exactly like my dad. She is quite intelligent, reserved, has a dry sense of humor and is quite odd. -Everyone has their sole mate and he found his.
I haven't thought too much about it since then. The last few days, I have come to realize that she was definitely a blessing to him and all of us. She has stood by his side, cared for him, and is going to help him travel and enjoy whatever time he has left. Next week, my mom & sister will be moving to California. After that, the only one with him in Texas will be Angie. She is definitely doing this out of love, but I can't help but think about the huge sacrifice she is making. She has only been married 6 months and her husband is incoherent and dieing. That sounds completely depressing. On top of that, I know she wants to have kids. Her biological clock is ticking, which can drive a woman insane. My heart goes out to her. Basically, I realize that we owe a lot to her.
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Baby: Lexi (born Jan 26th)
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For people who don't know me, I come from a big family (3 brothers & 1 sister). We moved around a LOT, so I am not really from one particular place. I like to call Katy, Texas my home though.
Recent news, my Dad & Mother-in-Law were diagnosed with Terminal Cancer in April/May of 2005. My dad passed away 5-Dec-05 .
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