Tuesday, April 04, 2006
Conversations that Stick
I don't know if anyone else is like this, but throughout my life I have had various conversations with people that have stuck with me. Something they have said will pop back into my head at various times. I can goes years without thinking about it and suddenly a trigger will remind me of the conversation.
For the last few days, a conversation with my ex-sister-in-law has been on my mind. I should start by giving you a little background for the conversation. My youngest brother got married in August of 2004 and was divorced by January of 2005. Not only is that a very short marriage, but you know it was an awful experience given that they were apart for about half of that time. They rushed into it and married for all the wrong reasons. He was in the military and knew that he had a good chance of being shipped to Iraq. He wanted someone missing him like crazy in the US. She had just finished a master's degree and turned 30. These things made her feel like an old maid. Basically, it was a case of two completely different people wanting the same thing no matter how much they shouldn't. Unfortunately, even though it was a horrible situation, she did not want to get divorced and simply would not believe that she could have made that bad of a decision. They were both just obviously WRONG for each other. He recognized that problem much earlier than her and she couldn't accept it, which lead her to contact all of his family members including me.
During our conversation, I listened and openly answered all of her questions. I even offered information. She told me some of her observations about my brother. At one point, she said that she was completely frustrated with the fact that he truly believes that she makes everything in his life horrible and that once they are divorced everything will be absolutely wonderful. That has stuck with me and the reason why is that it is so true of all of my family members. When something is really bothering us it tends to taint every aspect of our lives. We immediately come up with a flight plan (you know that fight vs flight thing - we go for flight). On top of that, we truly believe that utopia is in the next location or situation. Some people are extremely afraid of change, but we thrive on it. Lately, I have been trying to figure out the negative aspects of strongly believing that utopia can come with change. So far, I have a few vague ideas that don't really seem worth it. I guess for now, I'll continue coming up with grand schemes that I completely believe in for my next utopian idea. My friends will continue to say - "what in the world is she up to now?" Am I messed up or what? At least I found a husband that likes to get excited about things, especially things that I make myself totally believe in.
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For people who don't know me, I come from a big family (3 brothers & 1 sister). We moved around a LOT, so I am not really from one particular place. I like to call Katy, Texas my home though.
Recent news, my Dad & Mother-in-Law were diagnosed with Terminal Cancer in April/May of 2005. My dad passed away 5-Dec-05 .
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